When it comes to matters of the heart, many people are completely unaware of how they unconsciously sabotage themselves, and limit their chances of finding long lasting love.
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If you don’t know the reason why you keep repeating one-date cycles, it’s a good idea to consider examining your strategy, and tweaking behaviour accordingly. To boost your dating success rate, check that you’re not limiting your chances by doing one or more of the following…
Ignoring Your Relationship Patterns
Everyone has a relationship pattern that has been shaped and formed from self-beliefs, and parental influence. Perhaps your pattern attracts unsuitable or emotionally unavailable suitors who always break your heart? Or maybe you have a tendency to put up an impenetrable heart wall barrier to keep a partner from intimately getting too close?
Before you attempt to get involved with anyone new, it’s wise to take a look at yourself, and to explore the history of your relationships. Be honest about what went wrong in each situation, and own your behaviour and negative qualities.
If you have a pattern of choosing a person with specific traits, dig deep to find out what attracts you in the first place. Unless you’re willing to do the inner work, that’s required to release relationship patterns, you’ll remain stuck in a loop of relationship dissatisfaction.
Not Setting Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries are set in every kind of relationship — including family, romantic partnerships, platonic friendships, and associations with work mates and passing acquaintances. The invisible lines help to define each person, and provide a sense of mutual respect, protection, and support. Your expectations of the connection also impact on your relationship boundaries.
Someone with unhealthy boundaries may be willing to put a partner’s needs before their own, and to overlook behaviour that other people find totally unacceptable, simply because they don’t want to lose the attention or ‘love’ that’s on offer. Two people with healthy boundaries give each other space, reciprocal respect and unconditional love.
If you have a habit of bombarding your POI with texts, to check that they’re still interested in you, it’s time to redefine your boundaries. Consider what makes you feel comfortable and safe emotionally, physically and intellectually, and set your boundaries accordingly.
As a new relationship starts to bloom, it’s a good idea to consider updating your boundaries so that they accommodate intimacy and exclusivity.
Crushing On Someone Who Is Emotionally Unavailable
On the dating scene, you’re likely to encounter like-minded people that are seriously seeking a romantic partner for a committed relationship, as well as individuals who want NSA connections, and those who are emotionally unavailable (EU). If you find that you’re hooked on someone who is not willing or able to give you want you want, on an emotional level, you need to cut ties and move on.
Crushing on someone who isn’t ready to get involved not only wastes your time, but also keeps you stuck in the perpetual loop of repeating patterns of behaviour. It’s OK to fall for their charm and flirty patter, provided that you open your eyes to their actions. Use the flirtation to practice your technique, but don’t allow yourself to become emotionally attached. Healthy boundaries will help you keep your distance.
Limit your interactions, with an EU person, to ones that are appropriate for the connection you’ve established on the UK’s busiest chat line service. Most people find that chatting to new people helps them to disconnect from someone who initially promised a great deal but failed to deliver.
If you want to find true love, letting go of the romantic fantasy, or any delusions you have, about being with the POI is absolutely essential. Talking to a good friend about your feelings can help you stop obsessing over your crush, and what might have been.
Sticking To Your ‘Type’
Selecting the same type of people to chat, text and flirt with, on our fast, instant and totally anonymous chat line can potentially be detrimental to your dating success. If you’re only interested in chatting to cute guys or sexy girls you could be missing out on chances to connect with a special person who is your ideal love match.
Consciously choosing to break a pattern, allows you to establish a wider range of social interactions, with unlimited possibilities. Giving someone who doesn’t look or seem like your usual type’ may initially feel unfamiliar but offers an opportunity to boost your chances in the game of love. You could even end up falling in love with the most wonderful person in the world!
Having Unrealistic/Fantasy Expectations
If you’re tired of repeating the one-date cycle, it’s important that you’re honest with yourself about your romantic expectations. What you believe about yourself, and what you realistically expect, will become your reality. For instance, if you’re someone who has a negative way of thinking and deep down expects that a lover will cheat on you, there’s a high probability that you will experience the feared outcome.
It’s crucial that you level up your self-esteem, self-belief and self-confidence, before you connect with singles on the dating scene. Swap your desire for romance fantasies for experiences that are enjoyable and fun, and that teach you valuable things about yourself and love.